The Orgasm Expert: Women Don’t Like Penetrative Sex As Much As Men! This Is How Often You Should Be Having Sex! Stop Inviting Pets Into The Bedroom! - Doctor Karen Gurney

In this episode, host Stephen Bartlett talks to Dr. Karen Gurney, a clinical psychologist and psychosexologist, about sexual dissatisfaction and its commonality amongst individuals and couples. Gurney notes that over 52% of women and 42% of men express unhappiness with their sex lives, largely due to misperceptions about desire. She explains that traditional views on sex often lead people to wait for spontaneous desire, which frequently doesn't occur, especially in long-term relationships or parenthood.

Gurney emphasizes the idea of 'sexual currency,' non-sexual intimacy activities that maintain connection, and urges couples to talk about sex openly. She explains that mindfulness and attention can significantly improve sexual experiences. Gurney also discusses the impact of parenting on sex lives, asserting that low levels of sexual currency and high levels of stress reduce intimacy. Moreover, she highlights that many couples experience changes in desire due to societal pressures, with only a small portion of people discussing it candidly.

Towards the end of their conversation, Gurney provides practical advice on maintaining sexual desire, like prioritizing physical intimacy without pressure or expectation. She reinforces that sexual satisfaction should be about connection rather than the frequency of sexual encounters, advocating for a better understanding of desire dynamics between partners, especially when navigating challenges like parenthood.